I had a lovely e-mail from my sister-in-law the other day, in which she mentioned how busy I've been recently. She said I needed to give myself time to prepare myself spiritually for the changes that are about to happen in my life, and suggested someone that I could go and stay with for a mini retreat.
Now, time really has been a pretty scarce commodity round here recently. Last week, I was working till midnight every night, getting up at 5:00 the next morning to carry on with my work, and even working while I was on the train to work (time I usually spend reading the newspaper). In between all that work, I was shifting furniture from room to room, nipping out to buy paint whenever the painters needed more, and trying to arrange little details for the wedding.
It's been that way pretty much since early February - and I feel as though spiritually, this is the worst Lent I've had in years. I've done no extra spiritual reading, I haven't been to Mass any more often than I usually go, and I haven't set aside additional time for prayer and reflection. In fact, I was astonished when I realised that next week is Holy Week - I feel as though Lent has barely begun.
My sister-in-law was right - I need to stop running round like a headless chicken and calm down for the next two months, two weeks and five days. Unfortunately, this conclusion led to a row with New Man last night, when he listed out his assumptions about what's going to happen for the next few weekends. He appeared to have made big plans for us (without consulting me) for every weekend up to the end of April, although he later backtracked and claimed they were just suggestions (you know, the sort of suggestions that begin, "And of course, the following weekend we'll be going to...").
This weekend, I'm going to sit him down and focus on the Order of Service. We've already (more or less) chosen our hymns, and we'll look at readings and really try to read and appreciate them and try to decide which ones we'd like. Then the first weekend in April, we have our marriage preparation course, which I'm sure will give us plenty of food for thought.
But I suppose I'm also looking for some ideas from you (yes, all three of you who are still reading this blog). If you're married, how did you prepare for your marriage? Whether you're married or not, do you have any suggestions for things that New Man and I can read together and discuss to help us prepare for our new life?
Any thoughts that you can share with me would be very much appreciated...